Are you a “bad luck” magnet? Do you expect the worst, so you won’t be disappointed?
Or does nearly everything go your way? Do you see the bright side in everything that happens to you?
Either way, I’d bet a week’s salary that you get exactly what you expect.
Why? It’s called the Law of Attraction, based on the law of physics that states that whatever energy we put out – negative or positive – is matched by more of the same.
Consider the tuning fork – a simple metal two-pronged fork whose tines resonate at a specific pitch when struck against a surface – used to by musicians to tune their instruments.
Put a hundred thousand tuning forks, all set to vibrate at the different frequencies of the musical scale, in a stadium. Strike one fork – the A, for example – and all the other A’s in the stadium will resonate.
Not the B-flats or C’s. Just the A’s.
This is the Law of Attraction, and it applies equally to your personal life as to your business life.
Focus on what you want
Like attracts like, so if your mood or feeling is positive, you will attract positive things in your life. The reverse is surely true as well.
To bring “good luck” or “good karma” into our lives, we need to change the way we feel about it, and how we express it to ourselves.
There are three words we need to remove from our vocabulary: Don’t, not and no.
If you go to Google and type in “No football,” what will be pop up on the screen? If you say to your pet, “No treat,” what word is it going to hear?
Same thing applies to the energy you put out.
If you say, “I don’t want to lose this account; I don’t want to cry in front of the boss; I don’t want to be broke,” the message – the energy – you’re sending out is “lose,” “cry” and “broke.”
By focusing on your “don’t wants,” that’s exactly what you’ll get back…what you don’t want.
When you change the words, you also will change the energy and your frame of mind. “I want this to keep and grow this account. I want to be calm. I want my life to be filled with abundance.”
Once you know what you want, rephrase it as if it were happening right now:
- “I do my best work on this account and my client loves me.”
- “I am filled with peace, joy and calmness.”
- “My life is filled with abundance.”
Something like this has happened to all of us: Our alarm doesn’t go off and our first thought is, “Oh, man, is THIS going to be a rotten day!”
And sure enough, it is.
We stub our toe getting out of bed, we burn the toast, we lose our keys, the car has a flat, we can’t find a decent parking space, the cellphone battery is dead and on and on.
In order to avoid being a bad luck magnet, we need to learn to use the Law of Attraction deliberately, tap into it and make it work for us.
Here’s a three-step formula to do just that:
1. Identify your desire. We’re not good at this; we’re better at saying what we don’t want. But we can figure out what we do want by knowing what we don’t want.
Hate your job? Keep focusing on that and nothing will improve. Instead, try imagining your perfect job. What kind of work would you do? Who are the people you would work with? How much money would you make? What would your environment look like? And most of all, how would it feel to have that perfect position?
2. Raise your energy. Give attention to want you want. Give it energy and focus, because the Law of Attraction says “you attract to yourself whatever you give your attention and energy to, wanted or unwanted.”
3. Allow it. This is the most important step of the three – and the most challenging – because we’re generally as bad at allowing conditions and people into our lives as we are at identifying what we really want.
What is allowing? It’s the absence of doubt, which is negative energy. If strong desire meets strong doubt, nothing happens.
The moment you shift your energy to the positive is the moment you start to attract the positive to your life.
Try it. What do you have to lose, except “bad luck”?
Ha! I’ve been going into most every day with a positive attitude and crap still finds me. Even after the garbage starts, I still keep my positive outlook. Well, that is until I’m beaten down with all the stupid things that continuously happen to me. I’ve literally had a bat (animal) fly in my open car window while sitting at a stop sign and hit me in the face almost knocking me out! Guess what, dumb stuff like this happens to me DAILY! I’ve even had many people ask me what I’ve done to deserve all the BS that gets handed to me everyday. They say it’s like nothing they’ve ever encountered. I do believe some of us, no matter how we think or feel, are just magnets for the crap of the world and I’m definitely one of them!
Wow…that is something, Tom. I don’t blame you for thinking that you’re a magnet for bad crap.
What “non-crap” would you like to have in your daily life instead? My unsolicited opinion: Focus on what you want, not what you don’t want. Focus on the the good things that happen to you, not the bad things. And do this every day to help rewire your brain.
In 1948, the concept of neuroplasticity was introduced. In basic terms, it means that brain cells change and adapt according to our experience. A year later, scientist Donald Hebb coined the phrase, “Cells that fire together, wire together” — meaning the more you do something, the better you get at it…the old “practice makes perfect” routine. The same holds true with how we deal with what life dishes out.
If we keep expecting crap every day, your brain will rewire itself to either find more crap or even put you in situations where the crap is more likely to flow.
Watch your self-talk. Try this little aversion technique. Put a rubber band around your wrist and every time you think or hear yourself say “dumb stuff happens to me daily” or similar concepts, snap the band. This will make you more aware of your thought process and the bit of pain will help encourage you to rewire your brain into a more positive outlook. Let me know how it goes.
To be honest I am with Tom on this one, especially considering the fact that for the last two years I have practice this law of attraction, manifestation, meditation, frequencies, tarot, numerology and so on, without any effect. This law of attraction and Universe thing is more like an industry now, and it serves only the ones who teach as I have never seen anyone to manifest something major, like lottery prize or manifest the disappearance of a tumor or a terminal person getting healthy. I think it is the same thing as in neuroplasticity because you start to think that every little aspect that is good is the result of your manifestation. It is easy to see this phenomenon if you go on youtube and look at the comments section of the videos who talk about meditation, manifestation, opening the third eye, binaural beats and so on, where every person is like in a state of delusion and most of the people think that they passed an exam or found 10$ because of manifestation. At the end of the day there should be a distinction between being positive or being delusional, because you can go as further as saying that the day was good because you are alive, that doesn’t mean you manifested anything. Also I don’t think anybody expects crap every day but at some point you kind of feel that it is enough, and that good is good where as bad is bad, without twisting everything.
I agree that the Law of Attraction and manifestation has become a huge industry. Same thing in my industry (coaching). The ones who are making big money in coaching are the ones selling “make big money in coaching” programs to other coaches — not doing any actual coaching themselves, or very little.
As I mentioned to Tom, it’s all about your approach. Ask for and be open to abundance, not winning the lottery, and see what happens. Abundance, of course, is not just about money, but good health, strong relationships, reveling in the natural world, etc. For me, abundance could be finding $10 on the sidewalk (or a dime), getting a new client, getting a compliment from a stranger and so on. When that happens, my attitude is going to be positively affected and I will notice other examples of abundance — getting a great parking spot, or getting through to someone on the first call, or even making it home safe only to discover the next morning you have a flat tire.
At minimum. all of these things will lift my mood and make me a nicer person to be around. That’s abundance, too.
The most important thing is your attitude, your mindset. Are you a “yes, and” person or a “yes, but” person — someone who has a problem for every solution? Do you take pleasure in the small things in life? Do you even notice them, or are you entirely focused on how you’re not getting anything out of your two years of devotion to the Law of Attraction?
And I agree — there is a difference between being delusional and being positive. Of course, there are different flavors of positivity, too: “I’m positive today will be a good day” and “I’m positive this day will suck” are pretty stark in their differences. Which do you choose?
Thanks for your comments. I hope your crap days end soon.